Thank you so much. I feel your words really got me. I am so upset and I crying right now. Honestly, it is hard. Maybe I am being stupid, but I feel so desperate as my life is no longer mine and the only time I am happy is when he goes to sleep at night.I have 4 amazons, trust me I know what screaming is.
Spraying the bird in the face is absolutely not the thing to be doing and is not going to help you in the long run, it's going to have the opposite effect as the bird will become fearful of you and potentially aggressive.
You have had this bird for 7 years, so that's 7 years worth of behaviour you need to reshape. It's not an overnight thing to do. It is going to take a long time and right now you need to have patience, a lot of it! You need to be willing to put in the time and effort it takes, you will have bad days - we all have bad days, but you will also have good days and overtime those good days will outweigh the bad.
Your bird is not unintelligent, you just haven't learnt each others language yet. Instead of punishing them for screaming have you tried rewarding them for the behaviour you do want? It doesn't have to be a treat or a toy, it can be a verbal praise, maybe a noise they really like to hear. You need to learn what it is that motives him and use that to help shape his behaviour.
Even if you get someone in to help you train him, a big chunk of that is actually training you and your partner on how to read him, how to interact with him and how to help him understand what it is you want from him. There is no quick fix to this, training is something you need to do everyday and is constant. You need to be putting the effort in daily and be consistent with what you're doing. You don't need to totally leave the room, just turn your back on him and ignore him that way till he is quiet or gives a noise you prefer and then reward him. It will take time but he will get there.
I try to train everyday but unfortunately I work long hours and then sometimes, I ill admit, all I want is to relax a moment between the million chores of life.
Thank you again, your words made me feel understood.
4??? Gosh, I don't know how you cope.