Hello everyone! I'm new. I'm going to be moving out of my parents house into an apartment of my own (in Australia) in a few months, which means I'll FINALLY be able to get a pet parrot! (My parents won't let me get one while I live in their house, and also I currently live in NZ so it would be mean to get a parrot and then put it through the stress of plane travel when I can just wait until after I've moved to Australia and then get one). I have been struggling to decide what kind of parrot I should get, and have heard a few conflicting opinions. I'd really like to have a grey african as they are so intelligent and I think I'd have a lot of fun playing a variety of games and doing lots of different activities with an intelligent bird. Some people say that a large parrot isn't good for someone with no bird experience and that I should get something like a budgie first, whereas other people say that it's not fair to the 'starter bird' to get a bird that isn't what you truly want. Though I am very tempted to just go ahead and get an african grey, I think that a starter bird would actually be the best move for me, for three reasons: 1. I would never get bored of or neglect my starter bird once adding a large parrot to my family, once I have a pet I will dedicate myself to that pet forever. 2. I'm a little nervous of the sharp-looking beaks that large parrots have and if me and my new bird are BOTH feeling uncertain of each other it could make bonding difficult. 3. A large bird may not be the best thing for someone living in an apartment. Though I have actually heard some people say that african greys are okay for apartments, as they aren't too loud and I could make up for the small space by taking it for walks with an aviator harness. I've applied to volunteer at my local bird rescue and I hope to get some parrot experience through that. Who knows? Maybe by the time I move out I'll have interacted with some large parrots and will feel confident enough to get an african grey after all! But just in case that doesn't happen, I'd like some advice on what a good starter bird for me would be. I was originally thinking budgie, because they are small and relatively quiet so I thought that one would make a good apartment pet. However I was talking to one of my friends today who told me that cockatiels are more playful and interactive than budgies and also make a good apartment bird. So now I'm a big confused on what the right choice for me would be. What I'm looking for in a bird: a fun pet who wants to spend heaps of time hanging out with and interacting with me and is intelligent enough to play a variety of games and learn tricks. It would also be really cool if the bird was bold enough to come on walks in the park with me without getting scared. Being able to talk would be really cool but not top priority. Also I'd like my first parrot to be a kinda gentle one so that I can get accustomed to the occasional nip (I'm aware that NEVER being bitten is unlikely) without getting a really hard bite that might make me scared. I once got bitten really hard by a rat in a pet store (I don't think it had been handled enough while growing up) and since then I've been nervous around kinds of animals that I'm not too familiar with as I don't know how to read the warning signs that may come before a bite, but I really want to overcome that phobia because I think a pet bird would be perfect for me. What I can offer a bird: I'm a quiet and chill person and I will be living alone so I can provide a secure, non-frightening home for an animal. I work from home most of the time and would be quite happy to spend hours and hours playing with my bird each day. I like coming up with new games to play and teaching tricks. Possible complications: 1. I have a pet cat. She is elderly, sleeps all the time, is a bit blind and has arthritis in her back legs so she can't jump. I've done some research on how to introduce my cat to the pet bird and teach her not to bother it, and I would never allow the bird out of its cage without supervision, so I am confident that my cat will never get an opportunity to harm the bird. 2. I will be in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend who lives in New Zealand and I will be visiting him for one week every two months. I am happy to pay for my bird to stay at someone else's house while I'm away so that they can care for, feed and play with it. However if my bird gets really attached to just me and doesn't like anyone else it might get sad while I'm away. Sorry for the super long post, I wanted to get all the details written down so that you guys are aware of all the factors that will go into my decision! The huge variety of parrots available is a little overwhelming so any advice on what sort of parrot you think might be right for me would be FABULOUS!